A Fresh Start! How To Put The Drama Behind You Just In Time For The New Year
Dec. 30 2021, Published 7:55 a.m. ET
Every day you wake up, you have a choice to turn off your alarm clock or hit the snooze button. It’s a choice just like what you eat for breakfast or if you choose to skip it. My point is that putting the drama behind you is a choice. It is not simple, because many of us would love to believe that we are not the source of drama in our lives.
Yeah, we think it’s our circumstances or other people and therefore the choice to get rid of drama can be next to impossible. It remains that way until you become very aware of what you feel, think, do and what you say to create the situations in your life.
When you are presented with circumstances that you don’t like, you react, like when you look forward to your favorite meal at your favorite restaurant. Perhaps, you love a good steak and potato. The steak usually tastes like butter, but tonight it’s so tough you feel you are gnawing on a mouthful of bubble gum. Disappointed, right?
Your reaction is to start worrying, if you say something to the waiter you may be seen as confrontational, you know “dramatic,” so this time you say nothing. Instead, you stew. You complain to your partner. You have a hard time getting over it, and you tell others, weeks later, when they ask how you are ... that you ate a steak from your favorite restaurant that tasted like your wood fence, and so, instead of possibly appearing confrontational, you choose to keep the drama alive. You think about it, ruminate on it and are still pissed. If you had spoken up, had a conversation with the waiter without losing control of yourself you might have not needed to make the choice to continue being dramatic ... but you didn’t.
So, all this to say … making the choice to leave the drama behind depends on speaking up, being aware of what you choose to focus on and notice what bothers you, like your neighbor sneezing in his driveway and you hear it through your open window. Repeatedly.
Even though the sneeze could be jolting or the meal is not great, it is to be aware of how you feel. If you make yourself suffer out of fear of disturbing someone, then you will feel bad. And feeling bad means you will create drama at some point, even if it is unrelated to where you sacrificed your well-being. Be aware, know how you feel and take action that may be uncomfortable to save you the discomfort of creating drama later on.
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