Navigating Infidelity: Dee Tozer’s Expertise in Rebuilding Broken Bonds

Infidelity is one of the most devastating crises a couple can face. It shakes trust to its core, sparks anger and grief, and often leaves partners wondering if their marriage can ever recover. For many, the default response is separation or divorce. But for others, the desire to repair what has been broken is strong, even when the path forward feels impossible.

This is where Dee Tozer, the Master Coach for Couples, CEO of Dee Tozer International Pty Ltd, Couples Therapy Master, and author of Affair Repair, steps in. Dee is an experienced relationship coach with an international client base who specializes in guiding couples through deep crises caused by affairs, hostility, or addictions. Her work focuses not only on saving marriages but also on helping couples build something stronger than what existed before betrayal.

Stories of affairs are everywhere, but the true scope of infidelity is far more difficult to measure than most people realize. Some studies show that respondents are more likely to admit to an affair when complete anonymity is assured, revealing just how much shame and secrecy surround the subject.

Even surveys tell very different stories. A YouGov poll found that 50% of men and 58% of women reported ever having a spouse or partner cheat on them. Yet a 2023 nationally representative survey produced lower numbers: 34% of men and 46% of women said they had experienced infidelity. And even these figures may not capture the full picture, since they only reflect betrayals that came to light.

When people report on their own actions, the data shifts again. According to YouGov, about one in three Americans admits to cheating, though nearly 20% described their betrayal as exclusively emotional rather than physical. This underscores another challenge: defining what infidelity actually is. At its core, it involves a breach of monogamous commitment, but the boundaries of betrayal often depend on how each couple defines trust.

What is clear, however, is the damage it causes. Infidelity can shatter relationships, often leading to separation or divorce, but its impact doesn’t stop there. It can erode self-worth, trigger depressive symptoms, intensify feelings of guilt and remorse, and leave both partners grappling with emotional and psychological upheaval. In many cases, it creates what is called an attachment injury, a deep rupture in the sense of safety and connection within a relationship.

That’s where Dee Tozer’s work has helped many couples find a way forward.

Dee Tozer’s expertise comes not just from her decades of training and coaching, but also from her own lived experience. After two painful divorces shaped by infidelity and emotionally difficult experiences, Dee committed herself to discovering a better way. She wanted to answer two pressing questions: What makes great marriages work? And what is the “extra ingredient” that allows them to thrive, even after heartbreak?

Over more than 30 years, she immersed herself in research and training with global leaders in relationship repair. The result is a thoughtful approach that blends compassion, directness, and practical strategies for rebuilding connection.

“I understand the despair, the loss of self-worth, the rollercoaster of emotions that comes with betrayal,” Dee explains. “That lived experience, alongside my training, allows me to guide couples out of chaos and into connection.”

Dee’s coaching process has achieved remarkable success. Many couples who enter her programs repair their marriage and move forward as stronger, more connected partners.

Her clients often begin in a state of shock and turmoil, unsure whether reconciliation is even possible. In these moments, Dee provides calm structure, guiding each partner to pause, reflect, and choose patience over anger. She offers both individual and joint sessions, along with daily opportunities for support through her Premium Couples in Crisis 12-Week Process.

One client, R.D., recalls how close she came to leaving her marriage before working with Dee:

“I was nervous, anxious, and embarrassed. My husband had cheated, and we feared a public scandal. I had already contacted a lawyer and changed the locks. My heart wanted to forgive, but my head was in detective mode, searching his phone obsessively. I was an emotional mess. Then we found Dee. She soothed us, stabilized us, and showed us a different way. Her daily support calls were our anchor. We repaired, recovered, and even addressed long-standing issues driving us apart, all without ever stepping into a therapist’s office. Her virtual approach gave us safety and privacy. It was exactly what we needed.”

Not all cases are straightforward. Dee often works with couples whose crises involve layers of betrayal, secrecy, or manipulation.

Dee works with some couples through not one, but multiple full rounds of her 12-week process. Her method, focusing on truth, respect, honor, and intentional growth, can help the couples rebuild trust and eventually re-establish closeness.

The foundation of her approach is consistent: bring back goodwill, respect, reassurance, and cooperation. From there, warmth and appreciation can return, transforming the relationship.

For those reeling from infidelity, Dee offers a clear starting point:

• Seek expert help early. Many couples find that structured support improves their chances of recovery.
• Be selective. Not all therapists have expertise in infidelity recovery. Ask how many couples they’ve worked with, how long recovery took, and what their outcomes were.
• Avoid dragging it out. Some professionals frame recovery as a multi-year ordeal. Dee insists it doesn’t have to be. With intensive focus, couples can stabilize and rebuild in months, not years.
• Protect your privacy. Sharing the details of an affair too widely can make reconciliation harder. Begin with professional support, not public exposure.

Infidelity often feels like the end of a marriage. But with the right guidance, it can also be the beginning of a renewed partnership, one rooted in honesty, resilience, and deeper connection.

For Dee Tozer, helping couples achieve that transformation is more than a profession. It’s a mission born from her own pain and fueled by decades of success stories.

As her clients attest, Dee doesn’t just help couples survive infidelity. She helps them thrive.