Exclusive: Case Kenny Wants Readers to 'Walk Away With a Clearer Lens on Life and Love' After Diving Into His New Book 'The Opposite of Settling'

Case Kenny, who is on a mission to help people live a more authentic life, is excited for people to read his upcoming book, The Opposite of Settling: How To Get Everything You Want Out Of Love And Life Without Losing Your Spark, which releases on Tuesday, August 19.

"I wrote this book because it hurts me to see so many good people talk themselves out of the love they actually deserve. Not because they’re weak or naive, but because no one ever showed them how to want more without feeling like they were asking for too much. We’ve lowered the bar so many times in the name of patience, timing, and 'being realistic' that we’ve forgotten what it means to hold out for something that actually lights us up. I wrote the book to flip the script, not just on love, but on how we see ourselves," Kenny exclusively tells Morning Honey. "I hope readers walk away with a clearer lens on life and love — one that makes them less bitter and more curious. Less guarded, more optimistic."

However, the author, who has been writing, speaking and teaching practical ways to cultivate self-awareness, build confidence and quiet the overthinking mind since 2014, doesn't want to necessarily "hand out dating advice" with the new tome.

"I wrote it to challenge the default mindset that says connection is rare, people can’t be trusted, and love has to come at the cost of your peace. That’s something I have heard all too much and became a spark for me to fight back against — the idea that 'all the good men are gone' or 'all women are crazy' or that inevitably you’re going to have to settle just so you can have someone. Hyperbole and extremes! We hear these kinds of things online and it’s become part of the narrative around dating. It’s draining and I want to help people be more optimistic," he explains. "If this book does its job, readers will walk away believing they deserve a love that feels both like coming home to themselves and someone else at the same time."

Kenny, who also reaches millions of listeners with his podcast "New Mindset, Who Dis?," says this book "has the same heart as my podcast — a blend of logic, mindfulness, and psychology - but written in a way that’s more focused and digestible."

"My podcast episodes are a conversation; the book is a distilled reflection/framework for optimism. Every chapter builds on the last, taking readers from mindset shifts to practical tools they can actually use. It’s designed to be something they can pick up again and again when they need a reminder of their worth," he shares.

Ultimately, Kenny, who released his first book, That’s Bold of You, in 2022, wants to "give people a new way to talk to themselves about the area of life that causes the most frustration — dating."

"I want them to have both the language and the confidence to stop settling in love and in life. Unlike my previous books and journals, this isn’t just prompts or short reflections, it’s a complete mindset framework. Almost three years after my first book, I’m writing from a place of more experience, more perspective, and having found my person," he says, adding that the "hard" part for him was "making the book concise."

"I have A LOT to say about the topic of mindfulness and love, and it was a challenge to keep the book under 300 pages. It was a joy to write and really helped me realize how many tools we have at our disposal to improve our mindsets and emotional vocabularies," he continues.

The most important piece of advice he wanted to include is: "The purpose of a relationship is NOT to settle down. The right person inspires you to get MORE out of life. In every sense — emotional, physical, adventure, late nights, travel, music, art, culture, etc."

He adds, "Don’t date to be liked, date to be seen. The goal isn’t to impress someone into choosing you, it’s to show up fully so the right person recognizes you. If you’re busy performing, you’ll attract people who fall for the performance, not the person. The best connection happens when you stop auditioning. I wanted to make sure there was a balance between mindfulness and psychology — something for the heart and the head. Dating advice often leans too far into one or the other, but we need both. I also didn’t want to include any gimmicks or manipulative tactics. This isn’t a 'game' book. It’s about building a mindset that sustains you whether you’re single, dating or in a relationship."

Now that Kenny has built a massive following, he's still overwhelmed with how many people come to him for guidance.

"It’s the greatest privilege of my life. Every message I get from someone saying my words helped them or, 'I finally believe I deserve more' reminds me why I do this. I don’t take it for granted," he states. "The best part is seeing the lightbulb moments — when someone realizes they’ve been accepting less and decides they won’t anymore. The hardest part is knowing I can’t speed up someone’s healing process. I can offer tools and perspective, but growth happens on its own timeline. That said, watching people evolve at their own pace is just as rewarding."

With two books under his belt, Kenny isn't stopping there — he's already working on another tome, which he plans to publish in 2027.

"It’s humbling and surreal. I still remember starting out in 2018 and wondering if anyone would even care about what I had to say. Now, hearing that my work has helped someone see themselves differently or take a leap they’d been avoiding is the most meaningful kind of success I could imagine," he says. "I never expected my podcast to reach millions. I started it as a personal outlet — a way to share my thoughts and maybe connect with a few people. To see it grow into something that impacts lives all over the world is beyond what I imagined."

He concludes, "I think my 'fresh take' comes from blending emotional honesty with practical mindset shifts. A lot of dating advice is either too cynical or too idealistic, I try to live in the space between. Hopeful but grounded. I don’t believe in scaring people into settling, nor in selling them a fantasy. I believe in showing them how to want more and trust themselves to find it."

The Opposite of Settling is available now!